Posts Tagged “Frustration”

Giving Kids the Opportunity to Succeed

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One of the topics that often surface in the parenting classes that I teach is the parent’s fears of their kids failing in school.  This is especially true for parents of kids with ADD or ADHD, because of their child’s difficulty staying focused on a school task to completion. Parents want their kids to succeed.  So when their child starts

8 Ways to Break Through Teenage Walls

teenage wall

As a child and family therapist, I have met with many teenagers who have shut down. It looks like they have put up 2-foot thick concrete walls around themselves to keep their parents and other concerned adults at a distance. By the time parents contact me, months or even years of damage has already happened in the family and the

What We Can Learn From the Post Office About Parenting

Post office

Has this ever happened to you or someone you know? Child: “Mom we need to go to the store tonight! My project is due tomorrow and I need a poster board and some construction paper!” Parent: “How long have you known about this project?” Child: “They told us two weeks ago, but I don’t see what that has to do

Conflict, Then Resolution

mother and daughter upset

Recently, there seems to be a pattern among the families that I have been working with as a therapist.  The pattern starts by the child acting rude and disrespectful.  The parent then gets offended and upset and eventually sends the child to their room.  Afterwards, nothing is really talked about or resolved between the parent and the child related to

What is Parental Debt?

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I know of parents that are deep in debt.  Not financial debt, but parental debt.  What is parental debt?  Parental debt, like credit card debt or any other debt, is when you want the reward or benefit of having something right now but (rather than paying for it right now) you put off paying until sometime in the future. How

Can Consistency In Parenting Ever Be Bad?

Frustrated Mom

I once worked with a mother and her three-year-old son (who was more like the size of a six-year-old).  She told me that she was trying really hard to be consistent with the way she disciplined him but the consistency wasn’t having a positive effect on her child’s behavior.  I asked her to share with me the disciplining techniques that